A sad realization hit me not too long ago. One day, I’ll hurt my loved ones. It won’t be intentional, but it will happen.
I’ll cause them deep heartache and sadness, and I won’t be able to do anything to stop it. One day I’ll die, and they’ll be left behind to grieve, clean out my stuff, and miss me.
I’ll be okay. I’ll be sleeping in Jesus, but they’ll still be here, and our separation will make birthdays, holidays, and special events a little sad.
I don’t want them to be sad and miss me. If anything, I want them to live life to the very fullest. The love we’ve shared should buoy them onward to live more of life than I ever did. And my earnest plea would be that my death would forge a hope in them to fear not and trust more.
It won’t be easy, I know. We can believe our loved ones are resting in Jesus and waiting for the resurrection, but our hearts will still be broken. We’ll still mourn and miss them.
Grief won’t be denied.
It demands our attention when we least expect it. Tears come, and the heart feels broken all over again. Loss doesn’t stop being loss with time. It’s always there.
But there is more, and we should never forget that.
Jesus made it clear. He conquered death, and although we still suffer, one day, we won’t. Death will be no more. We won’t have to say goodbye.
Knowing this helps when grief seizes the heart, but still we must continue onward in the here and now. Apart and celebrating with the empty chair.
God understands this pain. He comforts us in our loss.
And He gives us hope.
Love continues long after the last goodbye. Death never wins over love, and we get to participate in love’s victory when we push onward through our sadness and grief. God strengthens the mournful heart. He fills the emptiness with himself. And He softly whispers, “It will be okay.”
It’s a good thing to love deeply, even if that love brings profound loss. I don’t want to hurt my loved ones, but I know I will. The best I can hope for is to love them fiercely now, point them to God, remind them of truth, and make the most of every moment.
And I’ll trust God to provide for their broken hearts and lead them through the valley. He will open their eyes to there being more to life than what we see. God will give them victory over the darkness of grief and will show them the magnitude of His promises for life.
If your heart is hurting today because you’ve lost a loved one, turn to God. He understands your pain, and He’s made a way for life that cannot be stolen or destroyed. Read through these Psalms. Cry with Him, trust Him, and listen. He will help you through this sad time.
Psalms 23:1 – 23:4
“The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.”
“But I will sing of thy power; yea, I will sing aloud of thy mercy in the morning: for thou hast been my defence and refuge in the day of my trouble.”
Psalms 16:8 – 16:11
“I have set the LORD always before me: because he is at my right hand, I shall not be moved. Therefore my heart is glad, and my glory rejoiceth: my flesh also shall rest in hope. For thou wilt not leave my soul in hell; neither wilt thou suffer thine Holy One to see corruption. Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.”
“The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the LORD is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?”
Psalms 103:15 – 103:17
“As for man, his days are as grass: as a flower of the field, so he flourisheth. For the wind passeth over it, and it is gone; and the place thereof shall know it no more. But the mercy of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting upon them that fear him, and his righteousness unto children’s children;”
Psalms 9:9 – 9:10
“The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble. And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee.”
“Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance.”
“Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his saints.”
Psalms 91:1 – 91:4
“He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the LORD, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust. Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence. He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.”
“For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.”
Psalms 34:17 – 34:19
“The righteous cry, and the LORD heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles. The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all.”
“For he hath not despised nor abhorred the affliction of the afflicted; neither hath he hid his face from him; but when he cried unto him, he heard.”
Psalms 62:5 – 62:8
“My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him. He only is my rock and my salvation: he is my defence; I shall not be moved. In God is my salvation and my glory: the rock of my strength, and my refuge, is in God. Trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us. Selah.”
“Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.”
Psalms 116:1 – 116:7
“I love the LORD, because he hath heard my voice and my supplications. Because he hath inclined his ear unto me, therefore will I call upon him as long as I live. The sorrows of death compassed me, and the pains of hell gat hold upon me: I found trouble and sorrow. Then called I upon the name of the LORD; O LORD, I beseech thee, deliver my soul. Gracious is the LORD, and righteous; yea, our God is merciful. The LORD preserveth the simple: I was brought low, and he helped me.”“Return unto thy rest, O my soul; for the LORD hath dealt bountifully with thee.”
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